You want to make me into a flower? … Before I knew you, already I was a flower. Must I forget that, to become your flower? The one which is your destiny for me.

Luce Irigaray, Elemental Passions, trans. Joanne Collie andJudith Still (New York: Routledge, 2013), 34.

Where compassion is concerned, crime itself provides a reason, not for withdrawing oneself, but for approaching, not with the object of sharing the guilt, but the shame. Mankind’s crimes didn’t diminish Christ’s compassion. Thus compassion keeps both eyes open on both the good and the bad and finds in each sufficient reasons for loving. It is the only love on this earth which is true and righteous.

Simone Weil

Ultimately I am suggesting that a better way of thinking about patriarchy is as emotional manipulation. Characterizing it as misogyny, or “hatred of women,” increasingly misses the mark because it fails at descriptive precision (4). Hatred seems vague, outlandish, or unrelatable and this makes the accusation easy to dismiss. With the rise of feminism’s influence, patriarchy has sought different techniques, echoing Foucault’s belief that politics use a “sort of silent war to reinscribe that relationship of force.“

The Male Sentimental by Liz Kinnamon (via cgrehan)