It’s late winter and I’m in the rut of all ruts, but today three people I love and haven’t spoken to in months or years all hit me up without clear cause or prompting and those types of wild, random, redemptive things can make you want to entertain the notion that there might be some sort of keeling, reckless sense to the world’s happenings, even if just idly or for a moment.

Pro-tip to dudes trying to hit on me through tumblr messaging—I don’t even answer the sweet, wonderful ladies who message me on here because after one of your ilk (who I had never even corresponded with) found my phone number using the internet and proceeded to stalk me for a year, calling me over 300 times a day and threatening to ruin my life if I didn’t have phone sex with him, I am pretty well cautioned against making personal connections on this interface. Please re-evaluate your boundaries and try to imagine that women are people with emotional lives and agency equal to your own.